Compassionate Grief and Loss Therapy

What death means for living and what happens after are big questions that unite all of us (Schlitz, 2015).   I feel we strive to be better versions of ourselves and that living our lives preparing to die  is how we find meaning and purpose. Death is the best teacher.

I understand and deeply believe that the grief which comes from the excruciating pain of loss is not a medical condition but a human experience.   While medication and diagnosis may be helpful for some, I truly believe we each have the capacity within ourselves to heal, grow and transform. 

This is reflected in my work and integrated  framework for practice which draws upon therapy models that include narrative, strengths based, and process oriented modalities. All work is informed by attachment and trauma therapy, and is deeply respectful of the uniqueness of each human being and the story they bring with them.

Coming to terms with know you or someone you love is dying can be both surreal and painful. Saying goodbye is usually a time we feel unprepared for, and which can bring up memories, questions and 'unfinished business'. 

Each person's experience is deeply  unique and grief can begin long before someone dies.  Sometimes feelings can centre around love - and sometimes they can involve guilt, regret or remorse.   Every situation and life story is different. 

Sometimes, there is concern about whether a life has has been lived well enough; whether enough been done through life; how to prepare loved ones and especially children; will the person being left behind cope. 

The 'stuff' we might talk about can include the worry and grief of losing  or leaving loved ones, making meaning of life - and death, and/or finding one's spiritual path.  We can also explore how to live with dignity, and how to die with grace.  

Other things we may explore can include:

• Making memories
• Talking with, and including children
• How to maintain intimate relationships
• How to have difficult conversations with those you love

I have lots of resources in relation to death and dying for both adults and children if you are interested in just knowing how or where to access further information.